How to get rid of relationship problems?

You are correct that you are young and both of you lack worldly wisdom. But you don't have to wait until years pass to start building a happy relationship. The main thing that you need to understand (and later, perhaps, your young man will also understand): the relationship between a man and a woman in marriage (not excluding a civil marriage) is not intended to enjoy and receive something from a partner. The selfish approach is absolutely inappropriate here.

The paradox is that if you want happiness and harmony from a relationship, then you need to stop wanting anything from your partner and get rid of problems in relationships.

Happiness and harmony come when you just start giving away all the good, loving, without demanding anything in return. Also, in a happy relationship, the law “he first, then me” does not work. That is, you cannot demand - so let my young man start to take care of me, be polite and attentive, and then I will respond. Both partners can think this way for years, and it will be a big and long vicious circle. On the contrary, the law will work: first I will start to relate well, and then, maybe, he will. But I don’t expect this, I don’t look every time “so, I said a kind word, but what does he not say? What a bastard! "